January 2018 Update

1/13/18

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and recently I discovered that he has been talking to another girl. When I first found out that this was going on I pretended like I didn’t  know. But I can’t pretend anymore, what should I do?

-Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

Thank you for reaching out. I think the first thing you should do is to decide whether you want to stay or not, and whether your relationship is worth saving.  If it has happened before or they don’t seem the least bit sorry, think long and hard before choosing to stick it out.  The second step is to talk it out with your significant other and understand why they cheated. Also,  understand that you can’t blame yourself for what happened because you had no control over their bad decision. The next step is that you might need to take a break from each other for awhile so you both have time to process everything that has happened. When you finally decide to reconnect don’t feel like you have to rush the healing process because it takes time to rebuild the trust. If you still can’t work it out forgive their actions, let it go, and move on by ending the relationship.

-Brooke xoxo

 

1/23/18

All of my classes are getting really hard and my grades are starting to slip. How do I keep myself motivated and focused during the winter time? Please help Brooke!

-Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

Thank you for your question. I think the first step for staying motivated is to remind yourself of your goals and make weekly checkpoints to track your progress. The second step is to make sure that you reward yourself every time you achieve your weekly goals, just make sure to give yourself breaks every now and then. The most important thing to remember is don’t be too hard on yourself because you have to be your biggest cheerleader in life in order to achieve your goals. Lastly eliminate your distractions. So anything that’s causing you to procrastinate (your cell phone, Netflix, or etc) turn it off. Finally make sure you get enough sleep at night so you can stay focused during school.

-Brooke xoxo

 

1/24/18

My girlfriend and I have been dating for the past 4 months and I recently found out that she’s going to another school. Do long distance relationships work?

-Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

Thank you for your question. The most important thing a long distance relationship needs is communication. You must try to communicate with your significant other regularly. Also,  commitment is another thing needed like staying honest and trusting each other. But the overall thing needed that could make or break the relationship is planning. Setting aside time to do things together and simply knowing each other’s schedules will  help your relationship stay strong. So to answer your question, long distance relationships can work if you and your girlfriend are willing to put the time and energy into it.

-Brooke xoxo

 

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